I utilize Gottman-method couples counselling. This is a research-based couples therapy approach based on more than 3 decades of studies by psychologist John Gottman. It is sometimes known as “nuts and bolts” counselling due to its emphasis on practicality.
Gottman-method therapy emphasizes a thorough assessment phase to precisely target areas for change as well as better understand the strengths of your relationship. Identifying and mobilizing strengths is a key component of achieving meaningful change; relationship counselling needn’t be dour and depressing!
Couples sessions are in-person and range from 50-75 minutes depending on session availability and you can expect the following format:
Session 1: Couples attend the first session together. I learn about your history as a couple, we review your reasons for coming to counselling, your expectations for the relationship and your expectations for therapy. At the end of the session, I invite you to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup questionnaires, individually at home. These online questionnaires are not intended to predict the outcome of your relationship, but rather to help us get an in-depth picture of where things are at, including your relationship’s strengths and challenges.
While completing the questionnaires is optional, it is highly recommended, as doing so yields important information about the health of your relationship, seen from multiple angles. Each member of the couple completes the questionnaires separately which take approximately 90 minutes to two hours to complete. Results are emailed to Megan once both partners have finished, ideally before session 2.
Session 2: I meet individually with one member of the couple and then the other, either dividing the session time in two or scheduling two separate 50-minute sessions if this is preferred. Here I learn more about you each as individuals and your respective commitment to the relationship.
Session 3: Feedback session. Based on session 1, 2 and the questionnaires, I help you target areas for change and identify the strengths of your relationship. We review the Gottman-method therapy in more depth and how this would frame future therapy sessions. We clarify goals and I share my therapeutic observations.
Sessions continue at 50-75 minutes each, and total sessions range in number depending on the couples’ need. I generally meet with couples on a weekly basis to begin, depending on scheduling availability. As we see improvement in the relationship, we move to once every 2 weeks, then once monthly, once every 3 months and then once or twice a year. The purpose of the yearly session is to ensure that gains are being maintained over the long term.
Sessions will always start by addressing pressing or immediate issues and then will progress to skill building in the areas targeted for needing improvement. I do frequent exercises and almost always assign between-session homework. This “continues the therapy” throughout the week and helps maximize the value you are receiving from counselling.
Ongoing client feedback is encouraged to ensure that we are on a therapeutic path that is meeting your needs as a couple.
My couples session rate is the same for individual counselling. Please visit the fees page for general information about my pricing.
There is an additional cost of $29 USD for couples who have chosen to complete the Gottman Relationship Check Up questionnaires plus a fee of $100, to partially cover the time it takes me to review and summarize the questionnaire results and develop specific recommendations for you. This fee must be paid before I can complete my review.
While I am very happy to meet with couples for a free 15-minute consultation (and add you to my waiting list if we are a good fit), please note that due to high demand, my couples counselling practice is currently full until October 2019. As always, do not hesitate to be in touch if you have any questions.