LGBTQ+ Support

I endeavour to be an ally to members of the LGBTQIA2S+ communities. I strive for a position of humility in my practice and it is my clients who ultimately decide on whether I have been a true ally or not.

Clients who attend my downtown Vancouver counselling and psychotherapy office tell me that I am a counsellor who helps them feel comfortable and at ease. They understand that they can talk without being judged and that I will listen. I provide therapy for clients with a variety of life concerns, including:

LGBTQ+ clients also come to Willow Tree Counselling for support with:

  • Questioning
  • Coming out (including “late” coming out)
  • Parenting
  • Supporting trans loved ones
  • Transgender issues (including–but not limited to–social, legal and medical transitioning journeys)
  • Asexuality
  • Homophobia / biphobia / transphobia
  • Body image issues / eating disorders
  • Rejection and discrimination by family, friends, employers and others
  • Misgendering
  • Isolation and small town upbringings
  • Polyamorous or open relationships
  • Marriage / long-term partnerships
  • Domestic violence
  • Aging
  • Grief and loss
  • HIV issues / sexual health
  • Neurodivergence
  • Disability issues

If you are seeking unconditional respect, strict confidentiality, a collaborative counselling approach, a calming office environment, and many years of experience as a therapist, you have come to the right place! Every identity is welcome here. I encourage you to contact me for a free 15 minute telephone consultation to ask questions and determine whether I am a good fit for you. I look forward to hearing from you!

A Note To Family Members

If you are parenting a trans or LGBTQ+ youth and feeling overwhelmed, I encourage you to reach out.  I work with parents and family members who are seeking an accepting counselling environment where feelings can be discussed openly and honestly, without judgment. As a parent of two LGBTQ+ youth, including one of whom is trans, I know how challenging this journey can be! My approach also includes sharing practical information that I have learned along the way, in the hopes of helping to smooth the way forward. I look forward to hearing from you.

Recommended Books

The book links on this page are Amazon Associate links; if you choose to make a purchase through them, I may earn a small commission, at no cost to you, which goes towards funding my public low-cost counselling resource lists. Your support means so much. Thank you!

Empowered Boundaries: Speaking Truth, Setting Boundaries and Inspiring Social Change

 

by Christien Storm (2018)

 

There is a lot of information available on boundaries but out of everything I’ve read, this is my top pick. The author is particularly notable for their discussion on the nuanced nature of boundaries–honouring the fact that setting boundaries is inherently difficult but that it is not necessarily a rigid, inflexible process. Practical, inclusive and trauma-informed, guiding strategies are offered.

Love Lives Here: A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family

by Rowan Jete Knox (2019)

 

A trans family memoir, showing what is possible within challenge, when love comes first.

Pink, Blue, and You!: Questions for Kids about Gender Stereotypes

by Elise Gravel and Mykaell Blais (2022)

 

A children’s picture book told with sweetness and humour, that will also delight many adults too.

It’s About You Too: Reducing the Overwhelm for Parents of LGBTQ+ Kids

by Tracy Whitmore (2023)

 

The author stresses that when parents can honour their own thoughts, feelings and reactions to  their LGBTQ+ children’s gender and/or sexuality journeys, they are in the best position to wholeheartedly support their children. A practical, encouraging book. Recommended.

The Pride Guide: A Guide to Sexual and Social Health for LGBTQ Youth

by Jo Langford (2020)

 

While designed for youth, this book–written by a sex-educator and longtime therapist–has practical and helpful information for parents who wish to better undersand and support their LGBTQ+ children.

The Transgender Child: Revised & Updated Edition: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Nonbinary Children

by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper (2022)

 

A thorough guide for families wanting to understand and affirm their transgender, gender-expansive, or nonbinary child, including transition-related information and guidance. The book also includes resources and a glossary of terms.

Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults: A Guide for Professionals and Families

by Finn Grafton (2019)

 

An important intersectional work from a therapist with lived experience. Recommended.

A Quick and Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities

by Mady G. & Jules Zuckerberg (2019)

 

A ‘101’ of the LGBTQ communities in a short illustrated guide: sexuality, gender identity, coming out, navigating relationships and more. Especially fun if you love mushroom illustrations.

A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns

by A. Bongiovanni & T. Jimmerson (2018)

 

Mini illustrated guide in comic form, packed with info and suggestions on using they/them pronouns. Now considered a classic. Especially recommended for family, friends and support people.

Beyond The Gender Binary

by Alok Vaid-Menon (2020)

 

Through the lens of their own life, this gender-nonconforming author compassionately explores and reimagines the gender binary.

Resources

Heads Up Guys

A wealth of information and resources on men’s mental health, with a focus on depression.

9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline

Call or text 9-8-8, from anywhere in Canada, 24/7.

Trans Care BC

Equitable and accessible care, surgical planning, and peer and community support for trans people across the province. Also has a database of resources and groups for trans folks and their loved ones.

Vancouver Low-Cost Counselling List

List of private master’s-level counsellors, or their interns, offering subsidized counselling. Updated quarterly.

Trans Lifeline

Peer support hotline run by and for trans people.

Crisis Services and Hotlines in Vancouver

Resource list, updated quarterly.

Health Initiative for Men (HIM)

Services strengthening the health and well-being of gay men.

Vancouver Friends For Life

Specialized support programs, including counselling, for persons living with HIV, cancer, hepatitis C and other illnesses.

Reduced-Cost Counselling [PDF]

A resource list of lower-cost professional counselling options in Vancouver. Corrections and suggestions welcome.

PFLAG

604-626-5667`
Info, referral and peer support to family members and friends of the LGBTQ+ communities.

Qmunity

604-684-5307
Serving and supporting LGBTQ+ folks  and their allies. Programs, information and referral.