Starting counselling, for many of us, is a freaky enough proposition: why add to the stress by keeping the counselling process secret? Writing about counselling and its myriad facets is at the heart of my articles, fuelled by a drive to make information about counselling transparent and accessible. I write about other things psychology-related too, to mix things up.

Therapy & You

How to Save Bags of Money On Counselling (Or, How To Stop Making Your Counselling More Expensive Than It Needs To Be)

August 2018 In Therapy & You, Uncategorized

My lowdown on strategies that will help you save money on counselling costs and maximize the value you receive from your counselling.

The Dilemma of Dual: Dual Relationships in Counselling

An in-depth look at the situation of dual relationships in a counselling context.

Counselling: Picture Perfect?

June 2018 In Therapy & You

It can be common to approach counselling thinking that one has to present a curated image—the kind of image we might pull out when company’s […]

Choosing Counselling: What Does This Say About Me?

May 2018 In Therapy & You

Self-stigmatization can be a big barrier when seeking counselling. We can move through these feelings and surprise ourselves along the way!

Therapist 911?

April 2018 In Therapy & You

Understanding the differences and similarities between getting help from a counsellor versus a crisis service.

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The Big Drain: What To Do When Counselling Leaves Us Feeling Wiped Out

March 2018 In Therapy & You

This article is for anyone who has felt wiped by a counselling session and wondered about it, or for those who might be holding back from counselling because of this fear.

Taking Stock: When to Try Counselling?

November 2017 In Therapy & You

There are a number of components that can influence the choice to proceed with therapy.

Going On A Therapy Vacation?

September 2017 In Therapy & You

Defining a therapy vacation may seem a little obvious, as in, it’s time away from therapy…But when I ponder this question, I pick up on a number of elements that make this question more nuanced than it actually seems at first glance.

Seeking Challenge in Counselling: How Much is Right For You?

August 2016 In Therapy & You

In assessing therapeutic fit, a key question is whether you wish your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and experiences to be challenged by the counsellor and if so, how much?

Who Goes For Counselling?

July 2016 In Therapy & You

The question of what ‘kind’ of person goes to counselling is one that may come up when trying to decide if counselling is right for you. It is, however, a question with no definitive answer, because there is no typical counselling client: it could be anyone. 

The Shackles That Bind: Breaking Free From Stigma

June 2016 In Therapy & You

Understanding and moving past stigma.

Open, Closed or Somewhere In-Between? Self-Disclosure in Counselling

May 2016 In Therapy & You

The fear of self-disclosure may be one of the biggest barriers to choosing counselling. But there are options.

Asking For Help: Risk and Reward

If seeking help were easy, people would just do it; it takes a lot of fortitude to reach out to a therapist. 

Digging Deeper: Understanding Therapeutic Fit

January 2016 In Therapy & You

What makes a counselling relationship strong, why that’s so important and what to do when the fit isn’t right.

Counselling: More Than Just Feeling Better?

December 2015 In Therapy & You

People are diverse and their emotional responses to counselling are just as diverse.

Are We There Yet? (Is My Counselling Done?)

July 2015 In Therapy & You

When and how to know when your counselling is done.

Phone Counselling: Emotional Barrier Buster?

June 2015 In Therapy & You

Phone counselling may have the power to break down the emotional barriers that keep some of us out of counselling offices.

Counselling Ruptures: Crisis or Opportunity?

April 2015 In Therapy & You

Ruptures in the therapy relationship do happen. What’s a client to do?

Counselling Homework: Shame Magnet or Road to Success?

March 2015 In Therapy & You

Deciding which option works best for you–whether it be homework or homeworklessness–can spark self-reflection around what you want out of counselling.

Cutting the Cord: When to Say Goodbye to Your Therapist

December 2014 In Therapy & You

When your counselling has gone well but you’re not sure when to end things.

How to Get the Most Out of a Counselling Consultation

November 2014 In Therapy & You

How to prepare for an initial meet-and-greet with a therapist.

Therapeutic Fit: What to Look For

October 2014 In Therapy & You

Things to look for in finding a counsellor who is the right fit for you.

Counselling: How Weird is That?

September 2014 In Therapy & You

On making the mental leap to discuss deeper, personal issues with the counsellor, who is also technically a stranger.

“Am I Covered?” : Understanding Your Counselling Options

July 2014 In Therapy & You

Knowing your coverage options when it comes to counselling.

When Your Loved One Won’t Get Help

June 2014 In Therapy & You

You’ve begged, you’ve cajoled, you’ve reasoned, you’ve researched and you’ve even offered to call yourself and transport them there. And still they say no.

Why Your Counsellor Is Not Your Friend

Understanding boundaries in the therapeutic relationship.

Counselling’s Million Dollar Question

February 2014 In Therapy & You

How much counselling do you need?

Counselling Is Not For Everyone

August 2013 In Therapy & You

Counselling is not for everyone; it works best when the person believes that it could help them or is an approach that inherently makes sense to them.

Truth Talking: The Role of Honesty in Counselling

June 2013 In Therapy & You

How client and counsellor honesty affects the counselling experience.

Facing the Fear of Judgement in Counselling

May 2013 In Therapy & You

You may feel tremendous fear that your counsellor will judge you, but will they?

Please Tell Me What to Do!! The Role of Advice in Counselling

April 2013 In Therapy & You

Because distress is often high when we start counselling, it’s normal to say to the therapist, “Please tell me what to do!”  You want things to be better. Yesterday.

Your Counselling Bill of Rights

February 2013 In Therapy & You

When committing to counselling, it is important to know your rights.

Intermittent Therapy: Is it For You?

January 2013 In Therapy & You

This article is intended to speak to those who may benefit from counselling off and on throughout the life cycle, whether that is twice or several times.

Helping the Helper

When you help people for a living, it can be difficult to ask for help.

How To Fire Your Therapist

July 2012 In Therapy & You

If I’ve done my job correctly, I will have helped clients help themselves, ultimately rendering my role as a counsellor obsolete.

Are You a Counselling Virgin? – What You Need to Know About Starting Therapy

May 2012 In Therapy & You

So you’ve gone to all the hard work of finding a therapist. Now what?

Assumptions for Therapy: Can You Relate?

April 2012 In Therapy & You

I’m writing about the attitudes that many of us bring to the start of therapy.

Ten Tips For Getting the Most Out of Therapy

May 2011 In Therapy & You

Strategies to augment your therapy experience.

Tips for Getting the Most Out of Your Health Care Experience

August 2010 In Therapy & You

Whether you are seeing a physician, counsellor, physiotherapist or other health professional, here are my tips for getting the most out of your visits.

Finding A Therapist

January 2010 In Therapy & You

Things to look for in your search for a therapist who is right for you.